Inner Beauty vs Outer Beauty

So over the years I have been kinda boring in the hair department. Only getting it done once a year. Max twice.  But before this I really enjoyed doing different things with my hair. Over time I just realized... who cares, it's hair. It's just not a priority for me. Its up keep that I dont have time or money for.

ShortBlonde

Bangs Mom cut

Shoulder High School

Being silly

Now as a stay at home mom Im lucky if my hair gets fixed 3times a week.  (Let alone get real clothes on) Im not complaining, I LOVE MY JOB! But sometimes I dont feel great. I feel tired, frumpy, unattractive, and messy. Which are my realities... I am dressed for my job. I manage my time so I get all my duties accomplished and well, doing my hair and getting dress to not go anywhere has been on the bottom. Im running around chasing Lucas, cleaning, cooking, among many other random events in my day that putting on nice cute clothes and pretty hair just arent a good fit. I dont want my pretty clothes getting stains, rips, spit up, snacks, and who knows what else on them.

BUT...

Is it beneficial for me? Even though it doesnt really fit my job description to put on cute clothes or do my hair and make up would it be good for me?  It's already hard on your view of body image when you have recently had a baby and dont feel "pretty" but is it important to take a little time to feel good about yourself.  Ive heard this many time from many other moms that it is important and I have watched enough of What Not to Wear to know its a slippery slope but is it just vanity? God says that our beauty is inward. And I totally agree! Far more important is our hearts and our character to be beautiful than our outward appearance. I strive daily to look more like Jesus and model His character to my family and those I may come in contact with. So this is the delima. Is my feelings of being frumpy, messy, unattractive (while at home) significant?

1 Peter 3:3-4
Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes; But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God. 

So for my job it might not be neccessry. But for myself and my marriage I think it is.  I dont want to feel these things around my husband. Even if he tells me otherwise (OFTEN) I still feel these things and it translates into my relationship. I dont want intimacy, or to be told I am attractive by my husband because I dont feel it. So to take a short 30mins in the morning to get ready may have to be added to my list of to do's. Im not only a mom... Im wife, friend, daughter, and me. So in this season Im think Im gonna try harder to look outside my day job and see that I can dress and do my hair cute anyday because its refreshing and it allows me to be all the other things that God has made me. I can be mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, and christian as I get ready for the day. So here goes.

Time to attempt to a new do...

Here is me now.

And here are my potential new do's...

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Monday Im getting it done so Ill share soon.  Hope this encourages someone or helps them think through this. I hope to hear your thoughts on this. Im not at the end of my thinking on this so please share your thoughts. Make up, clothing, hair... and so on.  

Until next time.